When you enter into marriage the assumption is that you will stay married until death do you part. No one goes in thinking about the day there marriage will end in divorce however it happens more often than not now a day. If a divorce is eminent in your relationship and you are wondering how you can stay on good terms with your ex read on. Amicable divorces are important especially when children are involved and also when it comes to mutual friends and with the division of assets and liabilities.
The first thing to remember when trying to achieve an amicable divorce is that your children should never be put in the middle of anything. They are the most important thing that you and your spouse have in common. They will always be something that you created and share together. Your children will be affected by your divorce enough as is don’t add to it by making them a part of any decisions that need to be made. Sit down and discuss a custody arrangement that works to meet both of your needs as parents remembering that your children will thrive in a situation where both parents stay equally involved in their lives. Consistency is the key when it comes to arranging a working situation and plentiful relationship with your children. A situation that is feasible for both partners will benefit your children.
When going through a divorce consider dividing the assets rationally and as peacefully as possible. When you actually sit to discuss what each of you wants and don’t want you may be surprised to find that this is an easier process than you ever thought. Your spouse may have agreed to a dog to make you and the kids happy but has no interest in keeping the pet you love so dearly. The same can be said for tangible household items and cars. Your spouse may have bought certain items to make you happy and therefore there is not any attachment to the object therefore making it easy to surrender. Of course there will be items you both hold dear; think about the division of these assets in consideration with the larger picture. This process will be a lot of give and take. The same process can be achieved with liabilities as well.
Even if you know that the divorce is going to happen counseling can still help especially when it comes to splitting on good terms. A counselor offers a safe environment to speak from the heart and talk about your shared experiences from your prospective. This process can help you understand where your spouse is coming from and vise versa.
If you are planning on staying friendly with one another it is important that you hold your tongue; this is especially important in front of family and friends. Nothing good ever comes from speaking ill of your spouse so it is best to just keep those thoughts to yourself. When you are choosing to stay in contact and on peaceful terms with your spouse speaking negatively will not help nurture the relationship you are hoping for. When it comes to your children really keep your negative feelings and thoughts to yourself. When you and your ex disagree on situations regarding the children it is best to talk about those issues in private. Your children, family and friends should not be privy to this information; issues should be kept private and dealt with in a civil manner between you and your ex only. This will keep your divorce and relationship more peaceful overtime.